Couples Counselling

Do you feel like your relationship is at a standstill and you’re more like roommates? Are you and your partner stuck in the same argument loop on repeat? Are your arguments left unresolved? Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting apart? Do you desire more intimacy between you and your partner? Maybe you’d just love to connect on a deeper level.

Therapy can help couples find healthier ways to resolve conflict and de-escalate arguments. It can help you navigate painful moments together in ways that strengthen your bond with each other, repairing wounds from the past so that you can move forward and be with each other in new, more connected ways. 

Couples therapy can be beneficial to you if you are going through change, such as preparing to start a family, moving in together, empty nest, or retirement, as well as to help navigate difficult times like loss or a health change. I also specialize in helping couples navigating trauma, military, veterans, first responders, and ADHD.

My hope is that couples won’t wait until things get really bad to reach out, or see going to counselling as confirmation that things must be so far gone or irreconcilable. Cycles occur in the majority of relationships; there is a predictable way we get caught in them, and so we can work together to bolster your relationship and prevent these cycles from gaining traction. 

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known humanistic approach to psychotherapy formulated in the 1980’s and developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships. Attachment science outlines how secure connection with others offers us the sense of safety we need to grow, risk, develop and explore our world. Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social, and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions.

For more information about this therapy: 

https://www.thecouplescenter.org/emotional-focused-therapy-eft-for-couples/

https://www.trieft.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/What-is-EFT.pdf

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/articles/200901/hold-me-tight